That may sound trite, or dumb, or like a no-brainer, but I’ve found it to be so true.
I have lived with varying degrees and forms of anxiety for most of my life. (Once I figured out it was anxiety, and not some fatal character/personality flaw). How often I would make up scenarios in my head of what may happen, or could happen, and how I would react; only to have nothing happen at all. Nada. Zilch. Not a damn thing happened and I worried and stressed and got knots in my stomach and was anxious for nothing. It’s been a ridiculous stress filled ride for most of my life and I’m tired of it.
So now I just say in my head “assume everything is fine, until it’s not”
Which kind of makes sense, right? Why worry about something that may never happen?
Kids are playing outside? Great, assume everything is fine until it’s not.
The dogs are chasing each other in the yard? Excellent, let them run until they are so tired they can’t stand up, and everything is fine until it’s not.
Taking a long road trip? Fun! Grab your travel pillow, phone charger, snacks, drinks, playlist and set your map; everything is fine until it’s not.
Don’t worry that the kids may fall down and chip a tooth. It may never happen. (still, keep an eye on them.)
Don’t stress that the dogs might chase a cat up a tree. There may not be any cats around.
Don’t be concerned about traffic delays or accidents or inclement weather. None (or all) of those things may happen, but you’ll be fine anyway.
And if you’re not, you’ll deal with it then. And you’ll be able to deal with it then, trust yourself.
Just stop with the anxiety.
I know it’s easier said than done, but it is possible.
So say it with me, “assume everything is fine, until it’s not.”
Have a great restful Sunday.